I thought it was high time we had another “wedding update” and what better thing to update you on than the ceremony itself?
When Tim proposed to me last summer (in Italy, of course!) we immediately began thinking about how we wanted our wedding to be. The day after his proposal we went to an awesome wedding in Rome, and then another one in Oxford the following week. Both were so different, and it made us realise very quickly that our wedding could be anything we wanted it to be.
We thought of churches and how we didn’t want to have to promise things that we didn’t feel in our hearts. We thought of the register office and how it all felt so clinical. We quickly realised that wanted something in between.
We discussed eloping and having a very private ceremony. We thought of Gretna Green or Glastonbury. But, somehow, as exciting as it sounded, we couldn’t bear the thought of not having our closest friends and family share that special moment with us.
And that’s when we thought about creating our own blessing ceremony.
Our wedding day is going to be interesting, to say the least. We have our “legal” ceremony at the register office at midday, followed by a walk in the park for photos (taken by family and friends, of course, as we aren’t having a professional photographer). We have until 2pm to get to our other venue, where we will be holding a blessing ceremony, followed by the meal and reception, before the partying begins and our evening guests arrive. That means I have three different guest lists – one for the whole day, one for the blessing and reception, and one for the evening. Quite a lot to think about…
But even more challenging (and exciting, of course) is the fact that as we are doing this ourselves, we are creating an entire blessing from scratch. We wanted it to be personal and to celebrate what is special to us, which means we aren’t following any given ceremony that is already written. Sure, we will take aspects from other ceremonies, but this is our one chance to really express who we are as we make a commitment to each other in the presence of our friends.
Thankfully, we have the help and wisdom of some wonderful people who, whilst unable to make the wedding itself, have been there with me throughout so many of my biggest life changes and know exactly what I want to create on that day. Online friends can be true gems and the little group who I met first online and then in person at the wonderful Glastonbury Abbey have taken Tim under their wing too and are helping us shape the day as we speak.
In fact, I must give a “shout-out” to Jen, who despite being unable to make it over to England this autumn to lead our ceremony, is helping us figure out how to make it work by inviting several of our friends to lead small parts of the ceremony and make it a truly special part of the day.
So, my lovelies, I must leave you and go dream some more of the big event coming my way rather fast these days. Have a wonderful day and I’ll see you back here tomorrow xx